Being direct with people is the best decision you could ever make. If for example your birthday or anniversary with your partner is coming up, sit people down and tell them what you expect from them/ what you want them to do. When someone does something you like or hate, let them know immediately and respectfully. Constantly let your loved ones know what you appreciate about them and what you would like for them to stop doing. You won’t believe how satisfying life can be.
Additionally, the right people (that care about you) will respect said boundaries, while the wrong ones will show their true colors by reacting negatively. Boundaries are an excellent way to weed out the wrong people. The more you practice it, the less guilty you will feel about having them.
I didn’t even realise that cultivating a relationship with myself is so important. It really is important to give time to myself . And to protect my energy and time because it is so precious . And like. Actually creating small habits like sleeping on time and eating good food is such a massive mood booster . And to make time for my art and writing . Like that’s really more than enough
nothing about the bare minimum is acceptable for me. not in careers, not in relationships or friendships, or even in self-investment. i refuse and will not tolerate it. at all.
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